How to mend your strained friendship?

The last F of BFF doesn’t always mean forever. Bummer! We all have a friend that we lost along the way. It’s time to take a step forward in mending these broken relations and starting afresh.

1

 Let the dust settle first

If the argument was quite recent, allow some time for the psychological wounds to heal. If you do anything now, you might cause more harm than good.

Purge your frustrations

Sometimes you’ll feel the need to vent out and validate your hurt feelings and that’s okay. It’s not healthy to hold your feelings in and pretend that you’re okay, so vent away.

But at the same time, don’t badmouth your friend to anyone. Instead, limit your tribe to just one person whom you can confide in and trust.

Give your ego a break

An ego may have good and bad parts, but one thing’s for certain:

When attempting reconciliation, both your egos are just additional obstacles both of you have to bore through to make meaningful communication between your pure selves.

Your goal, by withdrawing your ego, is to get your friend to withdraw their ego as well and open up, thus removing barriers in order to reconnect.

Don’t be afraid to reach out first

Get over that initial hump. It’s not as difficult as it appears.

Want to message them? Don’t be afraid to push that send button. That button won’t bite you back.

Be fearless, take the leap, and go for it. Go ahead and find a way to contact them. Believe me, you’ve got absolutely nothing to lose, because your current situation can’t get any worse.

End the blame game once and for all

Still figuring out who’s to blame? That means you’re still dwelling in the past.

Accept the situation for what it is even if it doesn’t make any sense at the moment.

No one’s perfect in this world, and the last thing you want to do is stir the proverbial pot when trying to fix your friendship.

Apologize for your part in what happened

Saying sorry not only eases their pain but also shows that you’re giving a peace offering to the other side.

Even if you don’t feel you’re at fault, please know you still had some part to play in the fight.

Avoid asking “Why?”

Why is a tiny three-letter word that can cause more damage than good. When asking “Why?” you’re pretty much pinning them in a corner and making them feel trapped.

It’s like saying, “Explain yourself; you’re guilty!” They’ll get defensive, shut down, or stay silent.

Be prepared to move on

This is all about creating peace. However, if after all that you’ve done it does not come to fruition, don’t despair. Know in your heart that you’ve taken the initiative and freed yourself from guilt.

Make That Friendship Even Stronger Than Before

Get the ball rolling. Make a conscious choice now. Remember, you have nothing to lose and only a friend to gain. Get them something nice, like SBL clothes, maybe.

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